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THE TECHNIQUE OF WATCHING ONESELF

What can I do to eliminate delusions and negative emotions?

I don’t fight against them. Whenever I am in the grip of anxiety, I don’t strive to suppress my emotions, I just watch myself, as if I were an external spectator.

The suppression of instincts, delusions, and negativity, has two heavy contraindications.

The first contradiction is that if we try too hard to suppress delusions and negative emotions like envy, rage, anxiety, fear, panic attack, we will actually fortify them.

One of the strongest emotions is sexual desire. The more we strive to suppress it the more we become attached to it.

World religions have taught us that sex is a sin. In my town, in the centre of Sicily, we boys were inculcated the idea, both in the families and in the churches, that sex is a capital sin. The result of those teachings was that we talked of sex all the time, and it had a central part in our life.

Likewise, other emotions act similarly. Sometimes we quench our hope to attain what we are not allowed to reach, but the more we quench our emotions the more we are attracted to the forbidden fruit.

The second contradiction is that whenever we strive to be different from what we really are, we extinguish ourselves, our character, our personality, and transform our real nature, becoming a person different from what we are. For instance if the core of our being is the selfishness and we tell ourselves:” from now on I must be different, I want to be an unselfish person, I want to become a holy man”, I go away from my center, I become a different person, I kill my creativity and I act in the life like a robot. My real nature is selfishness but I act like an unselfish person.

Since I was twenty-years-old I tried to suppress my true nature, which is to be an envious person. I tried hard to suppress my emotion of envy whenever it rose up, but acting like that, killed me. I lost my spontaneity, I become another person.

Nevertheless the negative emotions, like envy, jealousy, possessiveness, do not help us in our daily life, even though they are the core of our essence. In fact they prevent us to have serene relationships.

Therefore it is necessary to eliminate them.
How can we eradicate the negative emotions? What can we do, whenever bad instincts, lust, envy, anxiety, depression, possessiveness rise up, trying to overcome us?

The solution is simple: watch yourself! If we are able to watch ourselves in the same instant when our action is happening, like if we were a watcher of our person who is acting, then, over the time, we will realize the uselessness of our negative emotions, which do not help us at all and, furthermore, do not affect the person who is the object, for instance of our envy.

Hence the elimination of identification, attachment, delusions and the negative emotions is fundamental for living properly our life, but the only way for doing that is the observation of ourselves.

My tagline is: watch yourself and enjoy your life!
I am Ettore Grillo from Enna, located in the center of Sicily, where I live. My website is www.ettoregrillo.com My blog is http://grilloaegauthorblogs.com
The book I have written is “Travels of the Mind”. It is available at http://www.strategicpublishinggroup.com/title/TravelsOfTheMind.html
Ettore Grillo, author of “Travels of the Mind”