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THE GAME OF NEGATIVE Vs POSITIVE

Try to accept yourself as a split personality – don’t worry, we ALL are. We each have a positive and negative side. This is particularly important when it comes to our way of thinking. Our minds are filled with constant chatter. We’re not conscious of a lot of that chatter – it happens automatically. Here’s the problem. A significant amount of that subconscious chatter is often negative self-talk. Being humble is a virtue, but it doesn’t involve non-recognition that you’re good at something. You don’t have to be a complete narcissist, telling everyone that you are good at something. Just knowing and recognizing it in yourself is enough.

Negative self-talk leads to a negative belief system, especially about oneself. Where does this negativity come from?

It probably began where you were a child. Someone said you weren’t good enough, you were a loser, you were lazy. Children take things literally and to heart very easily. I remember my sixth grade carpentry teacher telling my father that I’d NEVER be good with my hands. I believed that for years. Then I built my own house, singlehandedly, with only books on the subject to guide me.

Our information media doesn’t help much either. What is the mix of positive and negative news items? Eighty to ninety per cent negative?

Negative belief patterns are very powerful. Often it seems that they overpower any positive beliefs you may have in yourself. They are NOT all-powerful. Your positive side has the most powerful weapons of all. Your negative side can’t prevail against them, but it won’t go down without a fight. It needs to be hit again and again, every time it tries to reassert itself.

Those powerful weapons are positive affirmations. Louise L. Hay has a great affirmation that applies to practically every situation. “I APPROVE OF MYSELF”

Continuous positive affirmations will defeat your negative side EVERY time. Don’t be surprized if it’s difficult to start with. Your negative side has probably been in control for a long time. It wants to stay in control. Don’t let it!

Every time you feel negative about yourself, you’ll know that your negative side is trying to make a comeback. Just say to yourself, “STOP!” Then produce your ultimate weapons – your own positive affirmations. You can also fight those negative statements with logic.

“I’m always wrong.” – STOP!                                                                                          I’m not ALWAYS wrong! I’ve made a few mistakes, but generally I make the right decisions.                                                                                                                             In fact, I’m NOT always wrong, I’m USUALLY right!”

Notice how you’ve changed the negative “I’m always wrong” to the positive “I’m usually right” in just a couple of simple, rational steps? Believe me, with logic and positive affirmations, you’ll win the fight!

Bruce Donald Gilham

Bruce Donald Gilham has years of experience in psychiatric counselling and spiritual meditation. You can find his book through the following links :-

http://www.eloquentbooks.com/TheAwakening-DiscoveringYourSpiritualPath.html

http://www.amazon.com/Awakening-Discovering-Your-Spiritual-Path/dp/1608602087